Living from the inside out isn’t just a revolutionary concept - it’s a truth about the way life works. In a nutshell, 100% of your experience of life is created from the inside out. We move through life feeling our thinking about the outside world. And it feels like real life.

When I say 100% of our experience, I mean everything; from our work satisfaction, to our relationships, to our views on failure and success. That old saying that money can't buy happiness? Well it’s true! And neither can the perfect partner, jackpot lottery win, or the gleaming red Ferrari. Because nothing from the outside world can give us happiness. But our thinking about those things can. Which is why that feeling of happiness can be so fleeting.

When you feel any feeling at all, no matter how much it seems to be caused by an external circumstance, it is always coming from you. Actually, it’s coming from your thoughts about the circumstance. The mind only works in one direction, from the inside out.

This is the opposite of everything we have ever been taught. The majority of us have been taught about an outside in model. That our outside world creates how we feel inside. What makes it even more confusing is that it really looks to us like our feelings are caused by circumstances. We may feel hurt when someone says something mean to us. We may feel sad when we experience a loss of something or someone. We may feel excited when we receive a compliment from a friend or stranger.

You may think there are lots of times when your circumstances changed and the way you felt changed at the same time. You may say for example, “I used to always be worried about money. Then Inherited some money, and now I’m not worried about it.” That may be true, but when you look closer, you see that it wasn’t the money that gave you more contentment. It was the fact that that you were no longer thinking worried thoughts about money. So you had been living with the feeling of concern about money through your concerned thoughts. Then, circumstances changed and you were no longer thinking those concerned thoughts, and the feeling of concern disappeared. Most people think that experience is coming at them from the outside in, but it’s actually coming through them from the inside out. Outside circumstances are actually neutral. What we think about a given circumstance determines what we feel, and this looks like reality to us. We’re living in the feeling of our thinking, not the feeling of our world. Thought is the invisible middleman between circumstance and experience that shapes the perception of our life. The more we understand where our experience is coming from, the less frightened we’ll be of that experience.

This is a truly life changing book”……Barry

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